Rising Depression in Women - 2

As a continuation of my earlier post I would like to present to you another technique.

Much of our emotional turmoil is due to holding on to past and hurt from the past. It forms blockages in the natural flow of energy. To heal these blockages follow the below technique.

Sit or lie down comfortably. Make yourself as comfortable as possible. Breath deeply. Start from your head and imagine a white light coming from above, from God and reaching the top of your head. It enters your body and  your head, eyebrows, nose, mouth jaw feels loose and relaxed. The light travels further down. Your throat, chest, shoulders, arms, stomach feel relaxed. Let go of any tension. It travels further down to your thighs, knees, feet, ankles everything is relaxed and feels light. Your entire body is filled with white light and it feels light as a feather.

Imagine you are rising from your seat above rising, rising, light as a feather. You are rising up, up you can see your seat below you. Then your home. Then your city. You are rising up, up now you are in the clouds. You still travel up and now you are in space. You still travel up and now you enter a space completely filled with the same white light which filed your body earlier. Angels are floating in those space, beautiful, smiling. They welcome you, greet you. Then God comes in front of you. He is bright shining, powerful, filled with white light. God comes and takes you in his arms. You feel soo blissful, relaxed, peaceful you have never ever felt this way before. You feel secure, comfortable. You are in the arms of the most powerful God who is your supreme parent and you feel as comforted as you felt in the arms of your mother, but many times more than that.

Then God takes your hand and takes you to a peak of a mountain. You feel you are on top of the world peaceful, quiet, close to nature. He takes you further to a cave. There is a big wooden door in the cave. You push the door you cannot open it though. You look at God. He smiles and gives a gentle push to the door and it opens up. He takes you inside and there is an auditorium. There are seats on the both sides of the aisle.

You enter inside and you see few people inside. You come closer and you see that these are the people you know. On your right side there are people who have hurt you in the past. And on the left side there are people who have been hurt by you in the past. You first go to the right, You meet everyone one by one and you tell them whatever happened before I forgive you. I let go of my hurt. You hug each one of them one by one. You feel deep in your heart all the hurt is melting as you hug each one of them. You feel burden reducing from your heart and your feel lighter and lighter. Tears roll down your cheek as you feel your hurt melt away. You feel clear inside.

Now you go to the left side and again one by one you ask for forgiveness from them for whatever you had done to them. They smile and forgive you. You hug each one of them. You feel even more light and clear in your heart now. Tears roll down more and with those tears, all the burdens in your heart melt away.

Now you bid farewell from them and leave that auditorium  and then the cave with God. God takes you again to the peak of the mountain. He tells you to come here often to clear out any burdens in your heart. Then he gives you the most beautiful smile and you see you are flying away from God. He says I will always be there when you need me. You feel you are drifting away more and more and again you are in the clouds. Now you see yourself descending back to earth. You see your city below you and as you descend more you see your house, your seat and now again you are back to where you were sitting before. Now slowly open your eyes. As you open your eyes you feel you are completely different, more clear, relaxed, peaceful and happy.

Do this exercise at least once a day in the start. Once you feel more and more clear inside you may then do it once every 2-3 days, then a week. We need to let go of the unnecessary burdens we keep inside so as to allow free flow of energy in our consciousness. This is the first step in transforming yourself.

Rising Depression In Women!!!!

Hello all,

I know I am writing after a long time. My priorities were different. But let me assure you before that, what I am now is a completely different person than before.

I want to discuss what I have seen very often, recently in my closed friends and relatives. Rising trend of low self esteem, confidence and depression. It hurts to see my loved ones in such an emotional pain. And all of them are women, lovely smart, talented ones. Which led me to think what is the cause behind all this.

I had the privilege of discussing life with smartest of people I know who are very successful career wise as well as spiritually. I really thank God for sending them into my life.

The discussions led me to the cause of rising depression in my loved ones which include me also. And the reason is lack of male qualities.

Basically, men and women have their strengths and their weaknesses.
The qualities which are prominently strong in women are:
1) Gentleness
2) Empathy
3) Sensitivity
4) Tolerance

Whereas the qualities which are prominently strong in men are:
1) Courage
2) Independence
3) Assertiveness
4) Confidence

With the changing roles of men and women it has become necessary for both of them to possess the qualities of opposite sex also. I believe in a complete family where there is a mother and father and they both possess these qualities in perfection, the child will be a complete person with both masculine and feminine qualities which will help him/her to confront life and its challenges with ease.

Unfortunately very few families today are normal. Either male lack in male qualities and vice-versa. In many cases there is single parenthood exposing the child to only one aspect of qualities.

Whatever the reason may be, but me, myself being a woman have observed that male qualities are lacking in my loved ones which leads them to low self confidence, depression, etc. This is the end of causes now let's concentrate on the solution.

We have to put in new programming in the subconscious mind. Women's mind is naturally programmed with female qualities but they need to be programmed with the male ones too. The best way to do so is:

"Get a place where you are alone (and which is preferably sound proof). Write down all the things you WANT in you. For Eg. I am a most successful woman ever, I am the happiest woman in the world. Always write in superlative degree. Happiest, Luckiest, Most successful. Make sure your sentences are short enough that you can remember easily. Remember the subconscious is unable to understand long sentences. And don't use 'not' in your sentences. For eg. Instead of "I am not scared anymore", use "I am the bravest and the most courageous person." Now comes the fun part.

Stand up spine straight and shout out all these sentences with joy. Make fists and say, "Yes!!!!! I am the most successful woman in the world!!!! Yes!!! Yes!!!" Literally jump with joy while saying these. Repeat at least 10 times at a time.You may need to do this at least 10 times a day.

There are times you cannot get that privacy. Still you can do this. If you are in an office go to the washroom and just say these things in your mind and jump with joy in your mind. There should be JOY all along.

This might sound childish or you may think you are lying to yourself. But the opposite is true.You lied to yourself when you said your were not good enough, you were worthless, etc. This is the truth and you are removing the wrong programming and recording correct one over it.

I present this to you as a first aid to your depression. If your depression is deep and prolonged you may need to consult a psychiatrist and get medicines too. But I don't want other people to continue suffering like my loved ones. Be Happy and Enjoy Life Its Awesome!!!! I will be posting more such techniques in my further posts.

Ratatouille

Not everyone can become a great artist; but a great artist *can* come from *anywhere*.
This was the dialogue Ego says at the end of the movie Ratatouille. This is something we need to remind ourselves at times.


Many a times, we start doubting ourselves, can I do it. Am I good enough? Am I talented enough? 
That person is more educated than me, or more blessed than me. If he cant do it how can I?


Just remind yourself of the above mentioned dialogue. Not everyone can be great. So that person, in spite of his blessings and advantages over you, may be couldn't be great. But that doesn't stop you from being great. A great artist can come from anywhere. Even a rat (it was just in an animated movie, still a good metaphor) can be a good chef. If you think you cant do it, may be you are wrong. May be you do have it in you to be great. Give it a chance. If you are not you'll come to know. And if you are, well you wont regret not trying.

What's holding you down????

How many times do we think over all the weaknesses that we have and finally come to the conclusion, it is because of so and so in the past? Mostly it is the childhood, the environment that we were brought up in, our parents. And in many cases its more of blaming, mostly our parents. Why were they like that, why didn't they give us the love, support, appreciation, confidence? Why were they critical? If they would have given the support, love, etc. our life would have been better. It could be others too actually when it gets to complaining or blaming we come up with thousands of things from our friends, school, college to the country and the government.

I have to admit I was one of that. In fact I once talked to a counsellor regarding that too. It was regarding my parents and she said that just forgive your parents for whatever they were not able to give you because all parents cannot give everything. Well it worked for me to some extent, I mean I was not mad at them anymore but then the thought still stayed at the back of my mind that I am, unconfident or timid or slow or whatever because of them, it may be the genes too I thought. I let go of the anger but couldnt let go of the weakness which was more important.

I was sick and tired of not being confident or, with no good health or all the weaknesses that I have. Which finally gave me the answer to let go. I had mentioned this one before "If you want to fly, you have got to let go of the shit that holds you down." This was more of a trap where i was stuck which wasnt allowing me to fly. And I came up with an affirmation, " My present and future life is completely unaffected by my past" it could be wrong I mean, the truth may be that past does affect my present and the future but I want my subconscious to live in this lie. Because this lie will allow me to live me life all new each day without any regrets or without thinking what if I could have got this or done this. Without any blame to anyone, and looking at problems only in present tense and finding solutions, with whatever strenghts I have. Develeping all  the stengths that I want to have without thinking about why I didnt have them in the first place. This has really allowed me to to be free from the trap and take each day as it comes with new perspective.

If you too want to let yourself free from this trap try repeating the above affirmation everyday to yourself. Program your subconscious the way you want your present and future to be. Take your life and your mind in your hands. 

Secrets of a millionaire mind

I Just saw 6 part video of T. Harv Eker's Secrets of a Millionaire mind.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PeNAGoFSqno

It was really amazing. I just realised in how many ways I was thinking wrongly about wealth, not just wealth but success as a whole. What he said made complete sense, meaning wanting to be rich not always means you are greedy. It is what we are meant to be. Like one of the other motivational speakers, Bob Proctor said, "You were born rich", but forgot along the way that we are and started wasting our time in this limited mentality. Anyways, you are not alone. And it can be changed anytime. One of the steps is to watch the video and try following the steps mentioned. It is really motivating. Just try it.

Mr. A M Naik - A good CEO

Today's Economic Times had a special edition - Most Powerful CEOs. And I was at cloud nine. Wow, So many people to get inspired of. All of them are gems. I could consider Chanda Kochhar to me my icon as being a woman, she has made into top 5 of the most powerful CEOs. But the person who appealed to me the most was Mr.AM Naik, chairman and MD of Larsen and Toubro.

He appealed to me more because I have personally seen him and listened to him in an event. The event was spiritual, yet this big man, the MD of L&T  had come to share his views on it. It was like he was speaking straight from his heart, no show offs, no fake personality. Honestly not many knew him there as they were all ordinary people, many not so educated too. Yet he spoke and it was appealed to me. It sounded much more honest than the other film stars which had come there too to speak.

Today when I saw him in ET I was genuinely interested in knowing about him. I know only that much of him as much was mentioned in the paper. Which is that his father was not any corporate guy, but a freedom fighter and a school teacher. Yet he made it this far only because of his hard work which is evident from the fact that he never took a day off for the first 21 years of his career. Wow. Such dedication towards work is truly inspiring.
But his famous quote will give you the answer for his dedication, "L&T is my hobby, the rest is work."

Even today, when he is about to retire, at 70, he still works 14 hrs a day 7 days a week only to prepare the executives next in line to do the same great work he did. But even now, people in L&T say that the company wont be same without him.

I just hope, and inspire you too, that we enjoy our work just like him that we never feel like taking a day off. Obviously we have to give time to our family too but it would be better if we show even half of the passion he showed in his career. And I know its not possible for everyone to love their work but, we can try loving our work, taking it as a hobby. Its just a matter of perspective, how we look at our jobs nothing else. Because work is work, you make it interesting my your own input it wont make itself interesting.
After all what we make of our lives in in our hands.

Warren Buffett and concept of inner scorecard vs. outer scorecard

For those who don't know who Warren Buffett is, he is the world's most successful investor, second richest man in the world after Bill Gates.

The best part is, his personality is completely opposite to what should have been of the man who is so rich, he is very simple, lives in a small house in Omaha, the same house which he bought in 1955 for only $30,000. And yes he is only 81 yrs old. Still no plans for retirement.

I would like to share with you one of his beliefs. Yes this belief, I admit, I dont follow, I should follow. Ok ok, I am not a big Wise old woman, just another girl like you who is also on her path to learn things about life.

So his belief is as follows:
"If the world couldn't see your results, would you rather be thought of as the world's greatest investor but in reality have the world's worst record? Or be thought of as the world's worst investor when you were actually the best?"

Those who answer the latter have an inner scorecard. They'll have the ability to be a true contrarian, ignoring the world's judgment and focusing on long-term results.

Very simple sounding, but difficult to follow as we are constantly in the need of others approval, others respect. Its a subtle form of ego. We want to feed the self esteem based on others opinion, rather than developing it ourselves. How could we be great if we have such thinking. If i want to be Warren Buffett, since he is my ideal, I will have to let go of this ego. He works for the love of his work, and not to earn money. And the fact that he donated 31 billion dollars to Bill and Melinda Gates charity is the proof of it. Do we work for money, other people's approval and respect or for the love of it?